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Numerology and Romance
"You
cultivate the flower in yourself, so that I will be beautiful.
I transform
the
garbage in myself, so that you will not have to suffer.”
--Thich Nhat
Hanh
This
month we will look at the role of Numerology and Soulful Rituals for
Love and Romance. We will be looking at this from the perspective of a
formed couple. We will explain ways in which we can utilize the couple’s Core
Numbers
to develop a stronger connection. Hopefully, as they develop more intimate
bonds
through ritual work they can also develop and increase self-confidence and
individuality. Incidentally, you can view a powerful example of ritual on
one
of the current reality TV dating shows, which has a rose ceremony.
To develop your own ritual you don’t need to do anything complex
or confusing. You only need to set aside a regular time to be alone
together. This
means that there aren’t any ringing phones or any immediate crisis to solve.
Your time together should be in a comfortable, safe and private place. You
might like to light a few candles, listen to music, or have a quiet dinner
together. Beyond this, I feel that it is imperative that each person
utilizes a
regular self improvement support system, such as a group meeting, life
purpose
coaching, or therapy to provide outside support. Outside assistance can help
you to
more fully develop a soulful living experience together. These outside
support
systems help you to solve issues, find balance, and can help to remind you
about
honor, respect, forgiveness, passion and compassion.
When developing your personal ritual, I recommend developing it
around an open discussion of your Numerological Chart and Core Numbers. The
outcome of your discussions can help you to know each other on new levels.
You
will also be helping one another through difficulties by bringing to light
things which otherwise might not be shared. Since Numerology can highlight
your
desires, strengths and weaknesses, then why not focus your discussions on
personal
improvement, growth and striving toward your passions and dreams? Of your Core
Numbers, your Soul Number and Life Path Number (Inner Numbers) both highly
illustrate your passions.
Self improvement--moving forward and being conscious of your dreams-- is important in any relationship. However, being aware of your inner desires
and needs becomes even more critical when you have children. Carl
Jung believed that
“Children
are driven unconsciously in a direction that is intended to compensate for
everything that was left unfulfilled in the lives of their parents.” If you
have children, or plan on having them, your ritual and the work evolving
from
it becomes even more important. The ritual that you develop, and the
discussions that hopefully follow, may remind you of long since forgotten
dreams and passions. Perhaps, now you can find a way to act on them.
Finding, keeping, and having passion makes the difference between having a
rewarding life or not. What is
your passion? People who know their passion feel it deep driving urge inside of
themselves. How about
you? True passion could be an urge to create or do something like painting,
singing, learning
or dancing. Or, passion could be a deep love for something like art, movies,
music, or reading. Recently, I saw a commercial where a man finds a bottle
on a
beach. Of course he rubs it, and a genie appears. He immediately asks the
genie
for a car and then zooms off, without asking for the other 2 wishes. He is
so
excited and caught up in the passion of having the car. Your passion can be
like that!
Being aware of your dreams, desires and passions is only half the
work. Now, it will be up to you to honestly talk about them with your mate.
Your Inner numbers can be key guideposts as to where to start talking, as
they
signify many of the inner urges that drive and motivate you. You can choose
to cover
certain topics, or just use your Numerology Charts to open up conversation.
It
is important to not to bring intolerance, blame or fault into the conversation.
Generally,
your attitudes toward tolerance, family life and acceptance are highlighted
by
your Personality and Destiny Numbers.
Your process here should be about
constructive talk on how each of you can help to strengthen the
relationship. For
instance, while looking at your partner's Soul Number, one of the first
questions you might want to ask is: “What holds you back from achieving your
passion?” or “What do you want in your life?” Now if you are married, you
may
think you know the answers. But, there is no harm in asking. Maybe you will
learn something new, and the goal here is to find ways to help your partner
grow,
achieve, and become stronger by helping him\her to actively pursue
interests.
Your work may help to uncover things that you both don’t know yet.
Be aware of pitfalls that derail real and honest conversation. Your Maturity
Number shows some of your potential strengths and weaknesses as you mature
in
life. Some of us may never fully utilize its full power. It can help you to
both be vigilant of potential hazards in your relationship. For instance, if
you both have a Maturity Number 8, then money may be a big issue in your
relationship and you can center your talks on that issue.
A ritual combined with healthy discussions utilized on a regular
basis can help to build your relationship into a true
shared path. Together, you can lay the groundwork for a strong and vital
union
while working on ways that you can both celebrate love and life while you each
pursue
your dreams and solve inner struggles. Indeed, author Thomas Moore stresses
that “…your soul work must involve family, friends, neighborhood, work and
community. Soul is about quality of depth with focus on the particulars of
life. Being connected to other people is what gives us our sense of self."
Also, don’t forget the words of Thich Nhat Hanh.
Good luck in your journey into Soulful Living and Numerology!
Tools:
Core
Numbers
Copyright © 2003 Rob Ragozzine. All
Rights Reserved.
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