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The Romance Reverend’s Picks For Healing Help for Dark Days

When Life Has You Down, Remember You Are Loved

Dear Tara –

You are named after a Goddess (the Tibetan mother Goddess of compassion, power and protection) and I will say a prayer that you find your way back to your sacred self. What you are going through is a common theme these days. I have gotten many e-mails like yours, telling of feelings similar to those you describe. This seems to be a time when many people are finding themselves facing fears, disappointments, heartaches, despair, and depression. Many people have so many issues coming up for evaluation at once that it is overwhelming. At times like this is often best to forget about "finding a boyfriend" and focus on reconnecting with your own soul.

First, you must take care of yourself medically, emotionally, physically. See your doctor, find out if there is a specific medical cause, and look into a medically approved wellness program; evaluate exercise and diet and make improvement in those areas. Studies show that people who are feeling depressed exercise less and often don’t pay attention to the kinds of food they eat. So I suggest you include awareness and perhaps a willingness to improve in those areas as a way of helping yourself heal.

Then, you can take a deeper look into your spiritual life and make some choices about how you want it to be. If you can reclaim your spirit, you will reclaim your connection to God, Goddess, All there is.

Remember that our divine parents are ALWAYS there for us. In the course of life’s disappointment and challenges, in the wake of loss and feeling lost, we tend to forget that we are not alone. I share with you a favorite reading. I often use this in memorial services to remind loved ones that the person who has departed is never really gone. But I believe that this is truly a memo from God and Goddess, telling us we are divine children, connected to the universal source of all that is, if only we are willing to see that!

I Am Always Right Beside You
All my loved ones think I am far away,
but I am always right beside you.
I never leave you. Never!
Not even for a moment.
If you open your hearts,
you will be able to recognize me.
And you will know how much I love you.
-- Unknown

The other thing that is very helpful at all times – and especially when you are having a dark spell – is prayer. Really, really pray -- and petition for healing, help, and relief of your burdens. You just can’t pray enough at a time like this. Talk out loud to the Divine Source of All That Is. Our cosmic Mom and Dad are there to help us. They are big enough to take all our burdens, worries and concerns. Here’s a traditional religious petition for healing that I revised to a non-denominational prayer. Say it every morning and every night for 30 days and watch your life change!

Prayer To The Creator Of All That Is
Lift burdens and allow for a happy, balanced, whole life

Glorious Creator filled with compassion for those who invoke thee, and with love for those who suffer. Heavily laden with the weight of my troubles, I cast myself at thy feet and humbly beg of thee to take the present affair which I recommend to thee under special protection.

Please help me at the highest levels to resolve the pain and heartache. Lay the difficulties of transformation at the feet of your most resplendent healers and helpers, so that they may bring all problems and challenges to a happy resolve. Cease not to intercede for me until my request is granted. Above all, obtain for me the grace of being in the presence of your greatness. I praise you, Great Creator, for all you offer to your children and as one of your children I accept my birthright to love, happiness, health, well-being and financial affluence. Bring divinity to all I am and do, and let me now live in the flow of your great abundance as I serve thy will as a healer and one who brings transformation to many. Restore my faith when it fails me and elevate me to the right path of service, relationship, love and livelihood. Empower me to good health and wellness. Make me whole and bring me the safety and opportunity to love with a whole and healthy heart.

Creator of all that is, Mother and Father of divine spirit and love, please help me heal and prosper and do good works. Make me a great woman/man and bring me the relationship, home, family and community life and spiritual family that I yearn to be with.

I pray to thee, and all aspects of thy divinity, to make me whole and help me help myself, my family, and those on the path. Amen. And so it is.

We live in a time so wrought with confusion and fear that many of us have lost touch with the fact that Love is the source of all that is, and that we are all from that same source. When you are feeling the darker nights of the soul, it is so hard to remember what it is like to love or be loved. Yet it is also our losing touch with that remembrance of love that makes the darkness evermore pervasive. Ultimately, our reconnection to the Divine Source of All That Is leads us back to love. I share this inspiration from Meditations With Teilhard De Chardin (Bear &Co).

Love alone can unite living beings
so as to complete and fulfill them,
for it alone joins them by what is deepest in themselves.
All we need is to imagine our ability to love
developing until it embraces the totality of the people of the earth.
--Teilhard De Chardin

Just take things a day at a time. Wake up tomorrow and say: "On this day, I move forward." If you are not yet there, try it a minute or an hour at a time. It may take time and reflection, but you will begin to work your way out of the darkness you feel. As the Vernal Equinox and Easter approach, the energy on our planet should also become a little lighter, as spring is reborn once again and a sense of renewal is in the air. One day, you will awake and see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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