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	Your Unfolding Path March 2003	Click Here to See Carol's Current Column
	by Carol Adrienne, Ph.D.

Carol Adrienne's work and teachings have been a great inspiration to me! In August of 1998, about four months after my father passed away, I read about one of Carol's workshops in a Learning Annex catalog and synchronistically found her book on a bookshelf at the bookstore. The themes of her teachings were familiar and comforting, as they confirmed the thoughts and ideas my father had shared with me shortly before his passing. Her books and workshops ignited my spiritual curiosity, setting me on my soulful life path, which led to the very creation of SoulfulLiving.com! Carol's participation has been an integral part of SoulfulLiving.com, at its soul level! Thank you, Carol, with all my heart!
~Valerie, Founder and Soul, SoulfulLiving.com

Law of Attraction

It was only
The thin thread of a cloud,
Almost transparent,
Leading me along the way
Like an ancient sacred song.
Yosano Akiko*

No matter what your day is like today, be alert for information in your emails or in your conversations that excites you—even minutely. This excitement is your intuition alerting you to something that might be to your advantage.

Pay Attention to What Intrigues You

A couple of months ago, I received an email from Lisa Love. She announced that she would be hosting teleclasses and that if people wanted to lead classes, she suggested they get training from TeleClass International. I immediately liked the idea of conducting a class on the telephone for a group (and will be offering a free one soon) because it means I’ll have the ability to work with people I might not be able to reach by physical travel. For instance, some of you have asked me when I was coming to do a seminar in your area in such places as Colorado, Michigan, New England, Rome, Germany, and Finland. Meeting on the telephone helps all of us—less expensive for participants and less physically taxing for me.

Follow Up

Following up my interest in Lisa’s email led me to meet Michael Losier, co-founder of TeleClass International. I took his tele leader training and absolutely loved it. I learned exactly what I need to know to make telephone classes interactive, fun and content-rich. (By the way, the synchronicity between us—besides good timing—is that we also share the same birthday—January 22!)

After the tele leader training, I decided to take another tele class with Michael called Law of Attraction. Michael is a personal and business coach who teaches people—in his own words—"How to attract what they want and stop attracting what they don’t want." Many of you by now are familiar with Law of Attraction—the idea that like attracts like. Michael has developed some unique and very powerful techniques that, if you understand and use them, will increase your ability to attract what you want, and stop attracting what you don’t want. I’m assuming you would like to have perhaps a great love relationship in your life, a wonderful career in line with your purpose, more money, more clients, better health, a stable financial flow, and opportunities to make a difference in the world.

Curiosity Draws You Forward

I asked Michael how he got started in his career. He says, "In mid-1999 I was conducting tele classes on how to be a successful trade show exhibitor. I noticed that out of about one hundred tele leaders, all of whom were from the States, I was the only Canadian. I was curious about who else in Canada was doing tele classes, so one day I did a search on the Internet. Rebecca Hanson’s email came up. She was teaching tele classes on web design. I contacted her and our first conversation lasted two hours. She is a web designer and I am a seminar leader, and we just felt we were an ideal business match. We knew right away that we wanted to work together. I had been consulting for years in trade show exhibition and marketing, and people had already been hiring me to teach them how to be a tele leader, so we knew there was a growing need in this area. Within two weeks we came up with a business concept and a logo and formed TeleClass International. As soon as we got clear about each step we needed to do, everything started falling into place."

Desire and Excitement Create the Flow

I asked Michael how he and Rebecca handled the finances involved in starting a new business, because so many people feel they have to have a lot of money to start up a new venture. He responds, "The funny thing is, we didn’t need any investment money because we were working with Law of Attraction—a philosophy which I had been practicing for years. As soon as I met Rebecca, I shared the concepts with her. Almost immediately, both of us could feel and see how things were flowing in based on our enthusiasm and love of what we were creating together.

Anything You Focus on Expands

Michael notes, "I was introduced to Law of Attraction in 1996, and I formed a little group to study it. At that time, none of us thought about applying it to the business world. Simply put, Law of Attraction (LOA) states that whatever you give your energy to, by the law of attraction (like attracts like), you will receive more of it, whether wanted or unwanted. For example, when Rebecca and I worried about class registrations being low, then few people enrolled. When we worried about not having enough income, our income was low. When we complained about not having enough clients—guess what—we got that, too.

"In the early part of my career," continues Michael, "I was trained as a business coach. I taught people how to build their business through traditional methods, such as marketing, sending out flyers, buying advertising, having compelling signage and so forth—all the usual strategies which do work to a greater or lesser degree but also inevitably take lots of time, effort, and money. However, as I started getting results from my understanding and use of LOA, I naturally wanted to share that with my business clients."

In 2000 Michael stopped traditional business coaching completely. Since then his coaching is exclusively on LOA—although it seems he can’t help sharing practical tips and strategies about trade show marketing, or writing good titles for classes, or what needs to go on business cards—all free resources for students of Tele Class International. He says, "For years I felt I had to work covertly with Law of Attraction because I wasn’t sure people would accept it. Ironically, this week, I was hired to be a keynote speaker at a Canadian government conference and they purchased 100 of my Law of Attraction books! Imagine, the Canadian government and metaphysics!

Vibrations are Feelings

"Recently," Michael says, "I was a presenter at a professional men’s drug and alcohol program. At first the men were stuck on what I meant by feelings, but by the end of the class they had completely gotten the message. The fact that these men—who are normally so in their heads—really got in touch with their feelings really excites me. In order to understand LOA, you have to understand that your feelings are vibrations that radiate out from you whether or not you know it. Some people—often men—say, "I don’t get feelings. I think about things. I don’t know what you mean by feelings." So I asked the group, ‘When you heard I was coming to talk about this subject today what kind of mood did that put you in?’ A couple of people said, ‘Oh, we were excited about it. We were looking forward to it.’ I told them, ‘Excitement is a feeling. Looking forward to something is a positive feeling.’"

Results Match Your Mental/Emotional State of Being

Michael makes an important point. While your thoughts and feelings are both creative forces in your life, feelings affect your energy field to an even greater degree than what you are thinking. On the one hand, what you think and believe is a measure of your self-esteem, past experience, and what you are choosing to give attention to. On the other hand, feelings set the tone for what you receive from the universal energy field. When you feel insufficient—i.e., not smart enough or physically attractive—it limits your results accordingly. Likewise, if you don’t think something is possible, you are not going to recognize an opportunity when it comes.

Law of Attraction is universal and non-judgmental. A newspaper article caught my eye the other day. An eighty-three-year-old man was found beaten to death in a poor area of San Francisco. The article said relatives remembered that everyday the old man prayed to be kept safe from wicked people (italics mine). I wondered how often and with what intensity he prayed, and if he specifically always included "wicked people" in his prayer. According to Law of Attraction, we want to limit attention to what we don’t want and ask for what we do want—such as a peaceful and enjoyable day. This is not to say that everything in our life is there because of a conscious motivation, or that people create cancer because they are not positive enough. We can’t always know the deeper spiritual lessons at work in our life, but as we grow in spiritual understanding, we understand that there are no accidents and something is always being worked out for a reason.

Michael reflects, "Wayne Dyer [Manifest Your Destiny] says that you can get what you want by thinking positively and affirming what you want. But I challenge that. I think we don’t always get what we want, but we do always get what we vibrate. Results are always a perfect match for you. The first thing to learn about how to stop getting what we don’t want, is to focus only very briefly on what we don’t like." Contrary to our ego’s tendency for blame, self-criticism, and belittling others—or "working hard" to solve problems—dwelling on problems and blocks is completely counter-productive.

"When you work with Law of Attraction consciously, your life is going to change in surprisingly wonderful ways," Michael says. "I’ve noticed that when I work on an issue with a client, I’ll get results in my own life. For example, one time I was working with a client who’s a coach, and he wanted to attract more clients. We spent a half hour using LOA verbal and written techniques. When I got off the phone with him, I had two messages waiting for me from people who had called to hire me. The lesson here is that LOA didn’t know I was working to help someone else attract more clients. It just responded to the vibration of attracting clients. That’s why things show up in your life that your buddy just told you he was looking for."

How to Stop Creating Problems: Eliminate the Words Don’t, Not and No

As a first step in changing your attraction frequency, Michael suggests the following practice: Eliminate the words don’t, not, and no from your vocabulary for three days. "Language is powerful. Listen to yourself in conversations. To what are you giving attention? When we use the words don’t (‘I don’t like my job.’), not (‘I’m not happy.’), no (‘I’m afraid no one will show up for my presentation.’) we are actually giving attention to what we don’t want. When you say, ‘I don’t like negative people,’ you just gave attention to people being negative to you. LOA is obedient. It will give you more of what you dwell on. When you eliminate these words for three days, you’ll find that it immediately makes you more present. It forces you to think of what you do want. You begin to feel and sound more decisive. Some of you may notice, for example, that when you decrease your judgments about people, negative colleagues don’t come by your desk as often. Maybe your friends or family are unexpectedly easier to get along with—so much so that you notice it."

What Do You Want?

So what do you do when you catch yourself in conversation saying don’t, not, or no? "Simply ask yourself, ‘So what do I want?’" says Michael. "At first you’ll need to remember to do this, but eventually it will become a new habit. It’s a great way to stop the cycle of complaining from negative friends or family. Bring to mind somebody in your life who tends to dump all their problems on you. Next time you hear them go on and on about their problems, simply ask them ‘So what do you want?’ As they start to describe what they want, their words will change and so will their vibration. You won’t feel their negativity anymore. It’s a fact that you can’t hold two vibrations at the same time."

Reframe Your Reality so You Can Pave the Way for a New Match

Michael says, "I have a friend who didn’t like referring to himself as being unemployed. We reframed it so he could say: ‘I’m employable.’ The words changed and so did his vibration. He was thrilled and excited about the possibility of being employed.

"Change doesn’t take twenty-one days. Change takes a minute. We can take a minute to change vibrationally, and change will take place. If you’re curious about what you are vibrating in any area of your life, just take a look in that area and see what you’re getting. It’s a perfect match."

You Make a Difference

If you want to do something to benefit the planet, begin today to put these spiritual ideas into practice. Millions of people have been expressing a collective desire for peace. You can help manifest that desire by remembering to focus your language on peace (not anti-war). How about shifting prayers and bumper stickers to: Promote Peaceful Solutions or Increase Peace rather than being Against The War in Iraq. Talking about The War in Iraq is counterproductive since, at this moment of writing, war in Iraq does not exist. Why give it a shape?

Have fun playing with these ideas. I highly recommend Michael’s new book, Law of Attraction. This how-to manual emphasizes all the points you need to know in order to understand and use LOA immediately. I am including some of his techniques in my coaching and Life Plan consultations.

Happy March, Carol Adrienne

MICHAEL LOSIER is a coach and trainer teaching people Law of Attraction techniques for deliberately attracting more of what they want and less of what they don’t want in their personal and business lives. He lives in Victoria, BC and is co-founder of TeleClass International--a distance education company (www.TeleClassInternational.com) His newest book, Law of Attraction, can be ordered online at www.lawofattractionbook.com, or through your local bookstore (ISBN 0-9732240-0-2). Saturday April 5, 2003 from 10-5 pm Michael Losier is offering a one-day seminar called Attract Anyone and Anything You Want; San Francisco Learning Annex (www.learningannex.com).

(*Poem at the top quoted from River of Stars: Selected Poems of Yosano Akiko, Translated from the Japanese by Sam Hamill and Keiko Matsui Gibson, Shambhala, Boston 1996, p. 51)

Carol Adrienne, Ph.D., is an internationally-known workshop facilitator and author whose books have been translated into over fifteen languages. . Her latest book is When Life Changes, or You Wish It Would. Oprah hailed, The Purpose of Your Life: Finding Your Place in the World Using Synchronicity, Intuition, and Uncommon Sense a must-read. She is also the author of The Numerology Kit. An electronic copy of Your Child’s Destiny—a numerological guide for parents is now available at www.CarolAdrienne.comm. Carol is available to for keynotes, workshops, and seminars and can be reached at Carol22@sonic.net or (510) 528-2226 weekdays 10 am to 6 pm PST.

SURVEY FOR OLDER WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIP: I am still researching the subject of helping older single women find Mr. Right. If you are a heterosexual woman between ages 40-70 and happily married or dating, I would love to hear how you got that way! I have a survey on my website at www.CarolAdrienne.com This is only for women in a relationship which began after age 40. I want to know your experience. How you found him, how it’s working out, etc.! You can help other women!